Would you like to:
- Have the power to actually carry out your intentions by setting your mind to what you need to do, when you need to do it;
- Be able to use importance or priority as a motivator to get things done;
- Keep more than 3 or 4 things in your head at one time without feeling completely overwhelmed;
- Feel like you are in the driver’s seat of your life rather than merely a passenger?
These are behaviours that most people take for granted, but for an individual with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), they can feel almost impossible.
It may seem that challenges like these should be easy to overcome. Simply put in more effort, manage your time better or use your willpower to concentrate more and focus on the task at hand.
But the reality is that the vast majority of people with ADHD are actually trying much harder than most can appreciate. It’s like they’re trying to make it from one point to another while walking through three feet of water. It’s not a matter of their ability to walk, it’s more that there is something unseen that prevents them from fully using that ability in the same way as most of the people around them.
What is that obstacle, and why is it not obviously visible?
Because it's biological. It's about wiring, not willpower.
No matter what you’ve heard or what you may have come to believe, ADHD is NOT a failed version of normal. ADHD is simply a different way of being. Spending a lifetime battling your biological nature can create beliefs and assumptions about yourself that limit rather than liberate your possibilities.
ADHD is a complex chronic condition routed in biological differences that occur in the body. No different in some respects than Diabetes (although more challenging to diagnose). Like Diabetes, effective management can require a multi-faceted strategy that can include, among other things, diet and lifestyle changes and in many cases even medication. So with biological-based management options available, what reason would a person have for working with an ADHD Certified Coach? The simple answer is “because the pill doesn’t give you the skill”.
In just the same way that person with Diabetes might work with a Nutritionist to help them make more informed and beneficial lifestyle choices; working with a Coach can help a person with ADHD learn to re-examine and re-structure their lives in a way that allows them to take full advantage of the unique, and often very special wiring, of their ADHD brain.
How does a Certified ADHD Coach accomplish this? Well, that depends largely on the individual client, but at its foundation, my coaching approach is developed from my personal experience as an adult diagnosed with ADHD, and it is based on 3 primary principles:
- Gaining a solid Understanding Your ADHD
- Deciding to Accept your ADHD
- Creating ways to Embrace your ADHD
I’ve been where you are; I know the daily challenges you face; I have sought the changes you seek to gain empowerment over what often feels like a life out of your control. I can help you discover, within yourself, the path to realize the changes you are seeking in your life.
I’ve been helping individuals with ADHD create change in their life and discover their superpowers since 2013.
I run a full-time ADHD Coaching Practice in St. John’s, Newfoundland, Canada (however I take clients from all over the world… even as far away as Tokyo!)
I am married to my wonderfully supportive and generous high school sweetheart and we have two amazing teenaged children, one who is just off to her first year in university!
How I Became a Coach
Becoming a Certified ADHD Coach was not a direction I would have ever thought my career would take. In fact, up until my own ADHD diagnosis, I didn’t really even know what ADHD was. I may have thought I had an idea, but boy was I wrong. But even though I could have never dreamed that I’d find my way to a career as a Coach, I arrived at a point in my life where I realized some things I felt pretty sure of:
- That there was something in life that I was ‘meant’ to do
- That no one seemed to ‘get me’ and the way I saw the world
- That I was almost constantly fighting some kind of internal battle
- That I was capable of so much more than I was doing
- That it was time to make some changes
Then, in 2009, I decided to seek counseling to try and reconcile the way I felt with the realities of my life. By all outside accounts, I was doing just fine. I had a wonderful family, a career that was fairly successful by most standards and a decent assortment of friends. But no matter what seemed to go right in my life, I couldn’t shake the overpowering sense that something was wrong. Even in the absence of any indication from others I felt like I was letting people down. Like I was never living up to expectations. That I wasn’t the father or partner I should be. Something felt out of alignment.
It turns out that the counseling I undertook eventually lead to a diagnosis of ADHD. At first it was a tremendous relief. Suddenly all of the things that had seemed out of line in my life started to make sense. I had a reason, an explanation for inconsistencies in my life. But before long the initial relief I felt started turning to regret. What if I had known earlier? What if I had known while I was in school? What difference would an earlier understanding of my brain’s unique wiring have made in my life? But then I got tired of the self-pity, living in the past and wondering what might have been.
That was the turning point. That was when I decided to use the new insight I had gained about myself as an opportunity to re-define myself. I learned that, while there was no denying the challenges presented by my ADHD, it also provided distinctive strengths and abilities that I had always taken for granted. I had always somehow managed to ignore them when I created the story that was my life. In order to help me explore and capitalize on those strengths, I began working with an ADHD Coach to discover how to view ADHD from a “strength-based perspective, and see it as a difference instead of a disorder. It was those decisions that eventually lead to the creation of what I now like to refer to as “BRETT 2.0”.
As you might imagine, things for me didn’t change overnight, but they eventually lead to my decision to leave a 20 year marketing career to become a Certified ADHD Coach. Sometimes you just need a little space and support and that’s where working with a Coach who understands the intricacies of ADHD can have a huge impact. It did for me.
How will you change your story?
The most powerful impact of working with a Coach is realizing that you’re not alone. Everyday doesn’t have to be a struggle. You have the ability to make create your own change and address the barriers that seem to be standing in your way. That’s what I’m here to do for you - to help you identify and breakthrough those barriers. To learn more about this, come on over to the coaching page.
Bet You Didn't Know that Brett
- Wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until he was 43 years old
- Left a career of over 20 years in marketing to become an ADHD Coach
- Grew up in rural Newfoundland where he spent a summer “squid-jigging” when he was 13.
- Has been playing guitar for nearly 30 years, but only learned so he could play James Taylor and Jim Croce tunes.
- Can’t remember song lyrics to save his life.
- Can do a mean Scooby-Doo and Elmo impression (great ice-breaker with little kids)
- Dabbled as a semi-professional photographer for several years.
- Has an incredible affinity for Silly-Putty
- Has watched the TV Series “West Wing” at least 4 times in its entirety.